A Blog for January
The holidays are rough, no? Anyone else have all of the stories of their famial trauma triggered just by going through the motions during the months of November and December? Whether you come from a family you are heavily involved with or one you don’t speak to; I am confident the holidays in itself just for existing stirred up the wounds of your past, because you’re human.
I’m here to demystify toxic shame. To befriend it. To give it a hug and thank it for showing me what my worst wounds and demons look like, how they present in terms of my coping mechanisms and my healing and then let that shit go. I’ve written this before and I’ll write it again. Our healing lies in our ability to forgive ourselves. For whatever it is we are in need of giving ourselves the same loving kindness we would extend to a friend or a partner. The shame spiral can only exist when you refuse to set yourself and your truth free. The things we stuff down we make warm breeding grounds for internal infection whereas when we breathe the oxygen of truth through our lungs and out our mouth, shame dies.
So what do you need to most let go of in 2023? And for the rest of your life for that matter? Is there a secret you need to tell someone so you can live with yourself in peace? Tell them. Its always worse in your head then it is ever going to be in reality. I’ll start. Recently I reached out to a toxic ex of mine…
