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Why Accountability is a Superpower and Victim Mode Keeps You Stuck
Recently, I found myself triggered when listening to a woman who chose to leave her husband refer to his “new pregnant wife.” in conversation, stating, but “she liked her.” This was triggering for me on many levels. One I could recognize that this woman was not taking accountability for her choices and accepting the reality that when you choose to leave someone for another life trajectory without them, they are deserving of finding peace, love, and freedom from suffering not only within themselves, but ideally with a supportive partner as well. This woman was not accepting responsibility for her life's choices. Life is a series of choices. Taking accountability for our choices and therefore our own life's trajectories is a superpower. It's how we stand in our agency, autonomy, and announce to this world that we are a sovereign being. Not to mention the key component to any type of conflict resolution stems for leading with vulnerability and taking accountability for your half of the relationship breakdown. After all, it does in fact take two.
As many of you know I chose to leave my marriage 3 years ago this fall. It was a tough decision. It was a necessary decision. I left it in a way that was honest, upfront, and while I didn’t prioritize material gain, I prioritized my truth authenticity honored my needs what I was willing to…
